Study guide: Friendship, permission and repair
Choose respectful next steps using specific agreement, conflict and help evidence.
Ideas to explain in your own words
- Permission is about a specific action. Agreement to borrow a pencil is not agreement to take a notebook or share a photo. A person can say no or change their mind, and pressure makes an answer less free.
- A safe disagreement is a problem people can discuss without threats or harm. Each person can describe what happened and what they need. Listening means checking the other person’s meaning before proposing a plan.
- Bullying involves unwanted aggression, a power imbalance and repetition or a strong likelihood of repetition. A single unsafe act still deserves help even when the full bullying definition is not established.
- A help plan has more than one route. A routine question may go to a classroom helper. A safety concern should go to a responsible adult promptly. If the first adult is unavailable or does not address it, another adult can be told.
Useful vocabulary
- Specific
- A yes to one action does not cover a different action.
- Changed mind
- Respect a changed answer; friendship does not remove boundaries.
- Repair
- Choose a repair that addresses the actual effect.
- Safety
- Threats or repeated intimidation need adult support, not child-led mediation.
- Evidence
- Use repetition and power facts, not popularity labels.
- Help
- A harmful act deserves help even when a definition is not fully established.
- Backup
- One unsuccessful request does not end help-seeking.
- Observation
- Describe what happened; do not invent motives or promise safety secrets.
Watch your reasoning
- Respect a changed answer; friendship does not remove boundaries.
- Threats or repeated intimidation need adult support, not child-led mediation.
- A harmful act deserves help even when a definition is not fully established.
A worked review example
The fictional school map names a teacher as first safety helper and the office adult as backup. A child reports, “Someone keeps pushing me near the art door.” If the teacher is absent, the child goes to the office adult rather than waiting silently. The map includes what was observed and a backup route; it does not require the child to prove someone’s motive.
Make a practice plan
- Draw or tell how to use each of the four ideas with the pretend examples.
- Complete the practice questions before checking each explanation.
- Use the review to find a step to practice again, then return to that lesson.
- Try the new paper task. Compare your answer and the rules you followed with the example answer.